The Girl of the Day

This is my first field report after taking the Art of Rapport workshop. It involves the Girl of the Day Challenge, where each day you must approach the most beautiful girl you see, no excuses.


This Monday was my decompression day between AoR and returning to work. So I basically stayed in and watched ESPN all day long. Around 6 o'clock I met up with a buddy of mine to have some beers and talk about my experience with AoR. As we're eating dinner and having one of those discussions about "game" that could easily continue for hours, I see him turn his head quickly to the sidewalk. My eyes turn as well, and I see two long, toned legs scurry down the street. She was beautiful, wearing a short black shirt with black stilletto shoes. I look toward my friend and say, "are you going?" He replies, "It's all you." And I take off, running out of the restaurant and down the sidewalk.

I finally get closer to her, slow down, and ever-so-gently tap her on the elbow. Now, realize this is a beautiful women walking by herself down a New York City street at night. As I tap her elbow and calmy say, "excuse me," she jumps and gasps. Yup, no matter how gentle I tried to be, I succeeded in scaring the crap out of her. So I had to react quick ...

(Stepping back to give her some space) "Woah. I didn't mean to startle you."

"Oh my God ... it's ok. I'm always on guard when I'm walking alone. Look, I was going to stab you with my key"

"Yikes, I see that. You've got that move down. I'm glad you didn't bust out the pepper spray" (Laughing) ... I just came over to tell you that you are incredibly cute!"

"Thank you!"

"I was just eating in that restaurant and I saw you and ... you made me feel good ... you made me smile. So I had to let you know."

(smiling) "I'm K"

"I'm Joey"

We start to vibe about living in the area, then I go into 3 questions game and we're talking about our favorite childood cartoons. The convo then segues into kareoke (I'm not sure how) and I suggest that we go and belt out some tunes together. She agrees, but when I go for the number, she says ...

"No, I can't give out my number to someone on the street. Give me your number."

"Your not going to call. I know girls" (credit: Daniel).

She laughs and insists that she will call, so I end up giving her my number. To be honest, after she said no to giving me her number, I knew I didn't establish enough attraction or rapport. However, my goal was to honestly approach the most beautiful girl I saw that day. I accomplished that goal. Next time I know to focus on building a more solid day 2.

Tuesday was my first day back at work. I am dying on the subway. It's packed and I haven't had my first cup of coffee yet. I exit the subway and walk like a zombie to Starbucks. Sitting at one of the tables was a really cute girl with a great sense of style. Exactly my type ... funky, yet classy. I get on line and my mind goes into excuse mode: "Get coffee first and then go talk to her ... I can't talk to anyone in the morning without drinking coffee first ... Oh my god I am so tired, blah, blah, blah."

Finally, I realize this is now or never. I know what will happen if I wait on line. She will leave and I will miss the girl of the day. "No excuses" I tell myself. So I get out of line and slowly walk over to her. She is chatting on her cell phone. Perfect.

"Excuse me ... you look really cute this morning. Do you know that?" (smiling) "I was just standing in line and I noticed you ... and you actually woke me up a little bit. You made me smile, so I had to come over and tell you"

"Thank you" (big x-mas tree smile and twinkling eyes)

"That's it for me. I'm late for work and will die soon if I don't have a cup of coffee. Have a nice day" (light kino on arm)

As I'm leaving, I overhear her talking on the cell phone ... "OMG! Did you hear that? That guy just made my day."

Hearing that made my day.